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We see it so much. Actually, you can say we are bombarded with it. In TV, in social media, in movies and well, it’s pretty much around here in riGOREmortis (we’re gonna abbreviate that as RGM) but have we actually talked about it? I can’t recall one particular time where we discussed it in full detail. Like a plague, it affects so many people and it is highly avoided.
You can’t blame people why they avoid the topic of suicide. It presents both moral and ethical dilemma for many. Think about it. We believe it is wrong to kill yourself yet at the same time we believe it is even more wrong to prolong a person’s suffering. That’s why most of us are against torture and murder. It really explains why we’re against suicide. Regardless of religion, age, gender, social status and whatsoever factors that divide and classify us, one thing for sure is that we have an idea of what’s acceptable and what’s not. We are social animals. That’s how we thrived for a couple hundreds of thousands of years as a species – by our ability to communicate which ensures the survival of our species.
Suicidal thoughts form and stem from a variety of causes. It is said to be from various reasons: mental illnesses, genetic predisposition (mainly for mental illnesses), environmental factors, tormenting physical diseases and so forth but really, it all takes just one bad day…followed by another bad day then another bad day until you begin to question yourself and think that it’s easier to just give up. Maybe you went through divorce, maybe you lost your job, maybe your parents ended up on riGOREmortis. There are 101 reasons why we have bad days and there’s only so much one can bear hence, something goes awry inside the head that makes it reasonable for someone to think that self-destruction is the best way to cope. Aren’t we programmed like that, though? I think that’s why we have ‘Uninstall’ and ‘Delete’ options and ‘Self-Destruct’ buttons. One way or the other, we open that option to just one day, opt-out and escape whatever we might have gotten into.
There are so many ways a person can try to end their mortal existence but none of them work 100% of the time. There are ten most lethal methods that people die:
1. Shotgun to the head,
3. Gunshot to the head,
4. Shotgun to the chest,
6. Hit by train,
7. Jump from height,
8. Gunshot to the chest,
and 10. Auto crash.
Much as I’d love to share where I got this from, I’d rather not. I don’t want the information to get to the wrong hands and I don’t want it to be my fault why someone killed themselves.
Some of us might have heard someone utter the words, ‘I want to kill myself.’ Hell, maybe some of us have mentioned it at some point in our lives to someone. Maybe some have acted on it, maybe some just wanted to get sympathy and compassion and, of course, there are the unfortunate few that succeeded and ended up on the GORE page.
Suicide is there. Suicide is a problem and, like most problems, it needs to be discussed. So, why don’t we? Is it because we can’t or is it because we won’t? There’s a huge difference in those words and I understand why many don’t want to hear about it. They think the other person is just being a drama king/queen orÂ just trying to get attention or just won’t push through the action itself and uses it to manipulate an intended person. I won’t deny those, they actually ring true. Most don’t push through with it. Most just tell people ‘I want to kill myself’ for attention and cravings for sympathy. It’s sad, either way. Either they actually hurt themselves or be driven to desperation to try gain sympathy via self-destruction. It’s hard to know for sure who intends to do it or not. But, you know what? I have had a few people talk to me abouttheir secret: that they actually have tried to kill themselves. In fact, these people have trusted me so much that they told me about it. These are former lovers and close friends, mind you. These aren’t some random people or strangers. They spent so many years contemplating about it and some actually pushed through with it but failed. It’s relieving to hear they’ve failed and if you’re Asian, that would be the weirdest thing you can ever say. They don’t tell anyone about it. At all. Ever. Now that’s frightening. Maybe we don’t talk about it because the real people who tried and are planning about it never talk about it. It’s frightening because someone sleeping next to you or someone you just went out last night to have drinks with might have this shadow of dark thought over them that they never choose to speak about.
Now, I don’t intend to make a public service announcement of condemning it nor am I going against the code of ethics I abide in by condoning it. Like the idea of Justice, it stands on neutral ground – at least, that’s the way how I see it. Although, I was hoping when I first penned this article that maybe if I brought light to the topic, we no longer would be strangers to it. I may have went to school for psychology and have been with people who suffered depressive disorders but there are still so many times that I am in the dark about it, Maybe, just maybe, we can try to talk about it and no longer feel awkward or odd about it.
So, what do you think about it?